sherlocked-inside-the-tardis:

fexual:

maverek:

shapeshiftandtrick:

bittergrapes:

alright, i know i’m a dude, but let me just point out that female-identified people are people too, just like anyone else, and hence DON’T DO SHIT THAT THEY DON’T WANT THEM TO DO.

When a female-identified person screams and fights or says to stop, you fucking stop. This is the kind of mentality that feeds rape culture, and if you say i’m overacting - no. just no. 

you don’t gaslight people (“get her mad, then kiss her”). you respect their boundaries (stopping when they tell you to stop). you don’t manipulate them or ignore their boundaries or pretend you know what they want (“she’ll scream and fight with you, but secretly, she loves it”). you don’t do stupid shit that could get both of you killed (“hold her hand when you drive”). you don’t treat her like a goddamn china doll that can’t do anything for herself (‘protect her). you don’t ignore someone’s feelings of anger or frustration by making it into a fucking romantic comedy or acting like their legitimate anger is ‘cute’ (“when she starts swearing at you, tell her you love her”).

jesus christ, it’s shit like this that encourages men to ignore women’s boundaries and for women to think that sexual harassment is ‘romantic’. fucking hell. 

somebody give this guy a trophy

^All of this.

^^Yes.

BLESS THIS FUCKING POST.

Shit like this makes me so angry. I don’t need anyone to protect me. If you tell me you love me when I’m fucking angry with you I’ll actually knock your teeth out. If you try to throw me into a pool, I’ll break your fucking nose. If you purposely piss me off and then kiss me, I will not think that’s cute or romantic. I don’t want to wear your goddamn clothes and I don’t want to hold your hand while you’re driving. People legitimately think this is like, chivalrous and romantic but it’s actually just fucking demeaning and misogynistic, honestly. I hate the whole concept of “nice guys”. I hate that guys and, even more frustratingly, girls think this is what a good relationship is. Being “protected” by a man.